Be Careful What You Wish

Be careful what you say.

You would never know if it might come true.

Sometime in February 2019, I was telling a friend that it was not really "worth it", being a stay-at-home mom with only two children.

I have always thought that having two children wouldn't really justify my choice of being a stay-at-home mom and that three children is the minimum requirement for this job.

I have always thought that three is the ideal number of children to have but having a pair is the norm. That everyone stops having children once they have both genders. My first is a boy and second, a girl. On top of that, both my children were preterm babies and having a third was not in my "must-achieve" list.

Besides preterm babies (at 30 and 32 weeks), I had gestational diabetes and I was already over 40 years of age. All these would put me in the high-risk group and I certainly wouldn't want to go through all the pregnancy check-ups and 28 days of confinement.

However, we can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps. It was during a full body check up in April that I found out that I was already 7 weeks pregnant.

It took me weeks to accept the reality. I took it as a chance to make a difference, this time. To really take care of myself during pregnancy and swallow as many multivitamins as I could remember. I made sure it would be a full term baby.

And finally, in November last year, I delivered a beautiful baby boy at 2.8kg. My previous two were only 1.55kg and 1.9 kg respectively so this 2.8kg baby was a miracle baby for me.

When I first got married, I had infertility issues. We tried for four years before I conceived our first child. We consulted a few doctors but the baby was conceived when we were both not on medication.

Due to the above mentioned reason, we didn't expect to be able to have another child after the age of 40 but we take it as a blessing.

If you are trying for a baby, do keep on trying and never give up. You'll never know when you'll receive a surprise gift from God.

If you would like to know more about conceiving and pregnancy after 40, do drop me a line. I would be more than glad to share my experiences with you.

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