What Is It Like To Be Married?

*This post is dedicated to a friend who yearns for marriage, yet couldn't decide if she is meant for it.*

SINGLE VS MARRIED

"What is it like to be married? How different is it compared to being single?" A friend asked me over dinner.

Hmm.....

My answer was:

I have "somewhere" to fall back on.

It didn't take me long to reply her. I actually surprised myself for being able to provide her with a positive answer, almost instantly.

Marriage is a challenging journey on a bed of roses.

After dinner, as I drove home, I gave the question another thought:

I might have given her a negative answer, if I were in a "different marital stage". In other words, if she happened to pop the question when I was not in good terms with my hubby, such as being in a "cold war", I could have given her a different answer.

Wait. Would I? Or would my answer be the same?

OK. Moving on...

I went home and had the usual late night date with my hubby, drank some wine and chatted and... casually, I told him about the question my friend asked me. As predicted, he was eager to know my answer. I didn't have a problem telling him my answer because it was positive one. It meant that I felt secure.

JOURNEYING ON A BED OF ROSES

As weeks passed, and I pondered upon this question, I recalled the journey we had. Not a bed of roses, certainly not. Oh, I forgot! Roses have thorns, don't they? SO, yes, it's a bed of roses, and remember, there are thorns but roses are so beautiful that you either ignore the thorns or you simply didn't see it! Like, love is blind, you know, that kind of thing.

I would say:

Marriage is not a test paper. Unlike in a test where errors can be erased and answers rewritten. In a marriage, mistakes can only be forgiven. Not erased. It won't be non-existent, like in the test.

It is full of challenges (and rewards too), encompassing all things in life.

From responsibilities to happiness, compromising to forgiving. Staying together no matter the circumstance.

Do you agree?

Did I miss out something important?

Do leave a comment if you have something to add.

Thanks for dropping by and have a nice day!😎

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